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gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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betelplouf@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago

I’m in this picture and I don’t like this

autriyo@feddit.org 3 days ago

Couldn’t be me…

erin the catgirl :3 [she/her]@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 days ago

waow thats me

2hundredpancakes@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 days ago

I used to be this girl and I still don’t really get why people post this… “gf who’s been horrifically abused starter pack”… trauma isn’t cute, it’s sad

infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 2 days ago

Yeah this is my girlfriend and every day is a struggle.

2hundredpancakes@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 days ago

I’m sorry. Some people really shouldn’t have kids

RachelRodent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago

This is the “inadequate gf starter pack” originally. This post is one that twists the self deprecation angle and tells users that they deserve to be loved. It does not fetishise trauma

2hundredpancakes@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 days ago

Oh, this makes more sense to me in that context. Thanks

HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 days ago

I am this person and no one else understands me so yeag

Fitzsimmons@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 days ago

yeah this is basically my wife. it started out cute at the beginning of our relationship but then we learned about the trauma. since then it has been a lot of hard work for both of us but that’s okay because I love her and she’s worth it. doesn’t matter if it’s sad instead of cute. traumatized people deserve to feel unconditional love too.

2hundredpancakes@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago

Sounds like you both found an amazing person. I wish you many years of happiness 💜

macniel@feddit.org 3 days ago

🏅 for being an excellent person.

macniel@feddit.org 4 days ago

“how am I supposed to be myself if I don’t know who I am” is a fricking mood…

Zoop@beehaw.org 2 days ago

I knoooow! I’m right there with you. It’s a sucky feeling, and I’m sorry for you that it’s such a mood. I wish you so much success and good luck in finding and figuring out who you are! & Some Internet hugs, if you want them 🫂

Oh, also, have this related meme that I saw and downloaded recently. That line in the post made it pop back into my head.

NaibofTabr@infosec.pub 4 days ago

I have gone to find myself

If I get back before I return,
keep me here